Love & Marriage: Discuss

I watched G.I. Jane last night purely to drool over Viggo Mortensen in his white US Navy uniform in the last couple of minutes. He could do without the dodgy tash though. I have a thing for the white Navy uniform ever since I saw Stephen Seagal in the first Under Siege movie & Richard Gere of course! Anyway I think its an ok movie & don't see why it got slaughtered by the critics. I've seen a hell of a lot worse, like Munich & Blood Diamond. I didn't get the hype surrounding them coz when I watched them I found them quite boring, in my humble opinion.

The song I had stuck in my head today was Little Esther's "Aged & Mellow Blues" which may be too obscure for you to have heard of it. It's a blues song that I was listening to last night. Principly the immortal line "I like my men how I like my Whiskey, aged & mellow" is what's floating around my head. Maybe its an omen!

Anyway today was another quiet affair in the office which gave rise to two topics of the day: "Marriage Pros & Cons" & "How Do You Know When You Are In Love?" both partly brought on my a convo I had last night. To summarize the first topic, it was generally decided I think like a man. Is that any surprise when I work & play in a male dominated environment?! All my best friends over the years have been male so it's natural their views will rub off on me.

I don't believe in marriage as I don't think you need a ring or a piece of paper to prove you are committed to one another. Yeah ok, I'd love a big white wedding but only for the dress, cake & getting to be a Princess for the day aspect - not becuase I believe in what "marriage" itself means. In fact I'd go so far as to say that I scorn the whole institute of marriage & would loathe being called a wife as once you marry a guy that's all you're ever known as; "Mr X's wife". It's never your name. It's like you cease to exist as an individual. Besides nowadways it's proven that you are better off financially if you don't marry. I'm sure that's destiny trying to show us all the way.

The second topic was an extension of the first one when AF pointed out that maybe my special someone would want me to marry him to prove that I loved him. To that I said the same as I do in any situation where a guy trots out the bullshit line of "but you would if you loved me", which is: "well in that case, maybe I don't actually love you at all". That then gave rise to the "question how do you know if you're in love"?

The general conclusion was there are no cast iron ways of knowing as it's different for every one of us. IE AF knows he's in love when he finds himself grinning when his girl sends him a text. This is before he's even opened it - it's as soon as he sees her name beneath the little envelope icon. B said he knows he's smitten when he can't wait to see her after being apart at work all day. I would hazard a guess & say I get butterflies in my stomach which I have inly had the once & I did think it was love at the time but now I'm so confused I dunno what to think it was!

Which then begged the quetsion, "What If You Are In Love But Don't Recognise The Signs?" IE B may grin like an idiot when he gets a text instead of dying to be with a girl & because it isn't his usual sign he might just ignore it & think she's "just a girl" rather than "she's the one". God I'm even more confused now. Fuck it I've had enough. I should charge for this kind of shit!

And finally, Joke of the Day (by default as we only had the one entry) was brought to you by AT:- A lad asks his grandma "have you seen my pills? They were labelled LSD." His grandma replies, "Fuck the pills! There are dragons in the kitchen.

Ciao for nnow

TJ